Nature Vs. Nurture


Most of us are aware of the great debate of Nature Vs. Nature.

Maybe she’s born with it, Maybe it’s Maybelline? Nope, beyond that.

What are we born with and what comes from coaching and training? I know babies are innocent but we have a sinful nature that we are inclined to follow and be guided by from a very young age.

Let’s take a simple example, patience. This is one thing I have seen “grow” in my children. Something I have had to nurture. We aren’t born with patience. A child doesn’t understand patience AT ALL. Have you ever had to drive home as your infant was getting hungry? No time to warm up a bottle. No time to make a bottle. Just step on it and get us home before we damage our child for life. HA! the pressure! There is no longer ride than the ride home with a screaming baby, even if it’s only a 4 minute drive!

As parents it is our job to help our children LEARN patience. We are definitely born with a selfish nature. Does anyone remember the commercial that said, “IT’S MY MONEY AND I WANT IT NOW!!!!” Oh gosh, does that remind me of childhood. I can’t wait for what I WANT! I WANT IT NOW!

Now, babies aren’t wrong. They are hungry, tired, cold, hot, sleepy, gassy, and/or bored, and this is their way of communicating. I am not saying babies are sinning. No, they are being blatantly honest about their needs.

Now, fast-forward to the child who is 5 or 6 years old. By this time, patience should be better than that of a 6-month old. Why? Because they’ve had some training. The training could come from being told to find something to do while waiting, a little more knowledge of the concept of time and the measure of time, or possibly learned coping mechanisms from watching the people in their family during a time of wait. Either way, patience is learned. This fruit of the spirit is grown and tended to. At some point in our lives patience is tended to by our self.

We must grow in our walk with Christ. It is a daily battle against flesh.

Galatians 5:16 reads:

“So I say, walk by the Spirit, and you will not gratify the desires of the flesh.”

Let’s help our children walk by the Spirit and not by the flesh. Let’s help them be more and more like Christ each day of their lives.

CHALLENGE FOR THIS WEEK: Give up one “selfish” thing this week and replace it with and act of service or kindness for someone else.

For Example: Maybe you have $5 on your Starbucks gift card and were looking forward to a drink for yourself. Give up that coffee for someone else and pray for that person. Ask God to bring someone to mind that may need a pick me up and prayer.





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